Understanding Intimacy and exploring it in your relationship

 Intimacy is not something that just happens between two people: it’s a way of being alive”.  A relationship without intimacy is referred to as platonic love. Introduced by the famous philosopher Plato, the term is used to describe relationships that lack intimacy. The rule has since been changed but there are still some relationships without intimacy and physical connection. Some of the examples include empty love, fatuous love, and puppy love.  Empty love lacks that emotional connection and passion which is the crux of a relationship. In the case of fatuous love, the relationship lacks that emotional connection, therefore the couples might lose the connection in the end.  Puppy love is another example of love that lacks intimate connections.   

It’s true that intimacy is the bedrock of a relationship but expressing intimacy at an early stage of a relationship is not that welcoming as well. Its slow and gradual. It’s not about working towards an end goal when it comes to moments of intimacy but gradually increasing the frequency with your relationship.  

For everything to fall into place there should be physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual intimacy.  

Physical intimacy  

Explore what works in your relationship. Express your affection through regular cuddles, lots of kisses, and holding hands to make it worthwhile.  

Emotional intimacy  

Don’t be ashamed of being vulnerable in front of your partner. If you feel like you need a good cry, make sure that you can lean on your partner. Pour your heart on meaningful conversations like discussing each other’s goals and passion.  

Intellectual intimacy 

Engage in an activity that you and your partner commonly enjoy. Read a book that you both enjoy. Discuss your insights with each other so that you have something to discuss on. Take art classes like music, dance if it’s something that excites you. Bond over your interest and similarities.  

Spiritual intimacy  

Express your gratitude for each other. Engage in activities where you are closely connected to nature.  Try out activities like hiking and camping to be closely connected with nature. Discuss your long-term goals and principles with your partner to make sure that it’s aligned with your partner’s long-term goals.